10 Nonverbal Tips Designed to Improve Relationships: No. 4

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This is Tip #4 in a series of 10 relationship building reminders.

Maintain good posture.

They called her Frances. Until she moved out of my community in Delray Beach, Florida Frances was a neighbor of mine who was approaching the age of 82 and looked not a day over 40. Okay, so maybe 50.

Every time Frances walked by I would stop what I was doing, and from my second-story window I would watch her until she was out of sight. If you find my behavior to be questionable, so did I.

How did this woman who was getting on with age manage to capture my attention? What was she doing that others her age did not? Why Frances?

It took me a while to figure it out, but figure it out I did. And the message that I am about to share with you needs to be internalized, underscored, imbued in your brain and practiced from this day forward. Frances walked tall and moved as if she knew where she was going.

In other words, she did not slouch like many (most) older people do. She walked with a distinct bounce in her step. It was as if she knew that time was passing and that she needed to get to where she was going.

Is it possible to gain attention just by the way you stand, sit, walk and position yourself? Absolutely. Definitely. Yes.

I remember catching myself getting too comfortable while sitting in front of a person interviewing me for a job. After breaking the ice, I felt my body sliding into a comfortable position in the chair and I was beginning to favor one side as I started leaning noticeably on the left armrest. It felt natural to me, but must have looked somewhat awkward to the person interviewing me. I was probably giving off vibes that I really didn’t care much about the offer. Nothing could have been further from the truth.

The next time you begin feeling yourself becoming too comfortable in any given situation, I want you to remember Frances bopping down the street, walking tall and on a mission. I want you to picture me sliding over to one side while sitting in an important meeting. I then want you to position your body accordingly. It can make all the difference and has zero downside.


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