This tip is from my Special Report written for recent high school graduates. It is also relevant to most adults. (Make that all adults.)
You already know everything you already know. The secret is to find out what other people know (and think and believe) and then take what “fits” and internalize it for your own benefit. That can only be accomplished by asking more questions and listening to the answers. This lesson will significantly affect your worth in the next 50 years. Please be one of the few who see the wisdom behind my words.
Chances are you are approaching the age of 20. The way I see it, for the first two decades of your life you have been given a “free hall pass.” In most cases, life has been good, and you have had a lot of fun along the way. You came. You went. You laughed. You cried. You had some fun. You probably slept a lot, or lost a lot of sleep.
Don’t get me wrong. There is still a lot of fun to be had, but the truth is the first 20 years will soon prove to be a lot easier than the next 65. The rules are about to change. The competition is about to become intense.
I realize that you have earned a high school diploma, and for this you should be very proud. I also recognize the fact that you still have a lot to learn. The longer you take to learn it, the more difficult your life is going to be. (I don’t want your life to be difficult.)
Now take a deep breath and follow my logic: If it were up to me, the decade of your 20s would require you to end every sentence with a question mark (?). From the age of 20 – 29, I would make it a law that you play dumb. You already know what you already know, and most people won’t care what you know. Sound painful? It’s true. The secret is to find out what other people know and think about when it comes to meaningful topics.
By probing and asking questions, you can listen intently to their responses so that you will become more knowledgeable. You will never learn anything new while you are talking. You don’t necessarily have to buy into their opinions, you just have to continue probing for information that you can use to your best advantage later in life.
This decade of asking questions will pass in the blink of an eye. You will soon be 30 years old, and you are about to witness first-hand why the saying “time flies” is an absolute truth. For the next ten years, I would pass another law requiring that you begin practicing what you now know and that you must be receptive to failure like it is going out of style.
What a concept! Are you telling me I have to practice before I can get things right? And I might get it wrong? Yes I am.
Trying new things will force you to stretch beyond your current skill level and, more often than not, pay dividends as time unfolds. It might feel uncomfortable at first, and perhaps even unnatural, but it will be worth the discomfort over time.
Your fear of failing will probably be the reason that holds you back. Remember, failure is not permanent as long as you keep moving forward, and learning as you go. The only way you are going to grow and eventually arrive at your intended destination is through practice. These ten years will also fly by.
Soon you will be 40. I know you are finding this hard to comprehend at this point in your life, but I am afraid it will be true in very short order.
Up until this point in your life, you have asked and practiced ad nausea and are ready to polish the few remaining areas that require a little attention. The decade of the 40s is a time for polishing, tweaking, and editing. These are your “action” years.
By age 50 (still a young person by today’s standards) you can live your life, and the rest of your years in the “catbird seat.” (This is a good place to be.) You have paid your dues, practiced your trade, and now you can enjoy the fruits of your labor. Bingo! You win.
I bet you’re glad I don’t make the laws.
“There is no greater gift you can give or receive than to honor your calling. It’s why you were born. And how you become most truly alive.”
|This is just one of the tips Mike Marchev offers High School Graduates who are preparing to enter a world that does not care if they succeed or fail. Do your son, daughter, niece, nephew or next-door neighbor a favor by presenting them with their own copy of 21 Life Changing Tips For The College Bound High School Graduate.
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