Yes, believe it or not, even the motivator has a down day or two. Although in most cases, I don’t like to admit this to the public because “I am supposed to be up all the time.”
Sorry to burst your bubble. If you are a member of the human race and still have the ability to fog a mirror, a few of your days will be less than stellar. Get used to the idea.
When this natural phenomenon, (blame it on your celestial chart) occurs, pick up the phone and call someone you trust who can remind you of the obvious, and give you a gentle whack back into reality.
We all need to know that what we are doing is the right thing. A term best used for this human need is called “validation.” A bunch of you reading this just said to yourselves “not me.” Newsflash: you’re in denial!.
Get over it partners. I’ve got all sorts of credible statistics and stories to back up my words, but I am not about to bore you with stories from professional golfers, NFL athletes, Hollywood celebrities, war heroes, and from a zillion “regular guys and gals” from Sacramento to Weehawken.
We all need validation from every area of our lives—work, home, play, church, school, and even the local bar sponsored softball team.
What do you think gives the athlete the urge to suck it up and perform at an exceptional level? Validation in the form of applause.
What do you think gives the nurse the strength to go to work at 4:30 in the a.m.? Validation in the form of a smile or a sincere thank you.
What gives the student the focus to earn a diploma? The pride in mom or dad’s face when they receive their diploma or degree. Yep. This is called validation too.
It is all about validation. That is what makes the world go round.
So, if you’re not getting your “validation fix,” there are two things you can do.
1) Start whining like a baby saying, “Nobody appreciates me. Poor me.” *
2) You can “flip the flop” and start validating others who play an important role in your life. Know that validation is what will give them strength to move on, up and over their next stumbling block. Help others to put the spring back into their step. (All the while, knowing that soon you will be receiving a little of the same in return.)
It is so easy (and absurdly ridiculous) to say, “I don’t need input from anybody … good or bad. I am my own person, and all I need is me.”
Good luck with that. For me, I can always use a little validation. It’s free and is far more effective than any other option.
Now, how did I get on this jag this morning? I was surfing the Internet at breakfast and came across this paragraph in a “white paper” that I liked. It sounded like my words and messages. Maybe the road I chose is, in fact, the right road. Hmmm, I was being validated. Cool!
* I don’t recommend that you choose option (1).
Mike Marchev has “been around the bases” more than a few times, and enjoys sharing his street-smart lessons with who ever will pause long enough to listen.