This is Tip #7 in a series of 10 relationship building reminders.
Today’s tip has to do with one’s personal space. You have yours, and I have mine. This is not measured by feet or inches. It is determined by one’s comfort zone. It is up to you to recognize this and respect it.
For example, when I am in a bank line, TSA line, grocery store checkout line or any line for that matter; I become uncomfortable when I can feel the person’s breath on the back of my neck or when I turn, I rub up against their arm or coat. This is a clear sign to me that some unwelcomed entity has entered my personal space without invitation.
At this point in time, I have no interest to determine whether the culprit is my type of person or not. I instantly classify them as an intrusion.
Note: While editing this tip, I replaced the word “creep” with the word “intrusion.” This is so you would not think less of me. (Yep. That is the way it works. Sorry.)
Some people don’t think twice about cozying right up on you. When in conversation, they feel no need to apologize when they move in close and go nose-to-nose.
I am not fond of this behavioral tactic, and I may even go so far as to call it a flaw. You are not doing yourself a favor when pulling a stunt like this with me.
When talking with people, be aware of your proximity. Some people have no space limitation, while other people require much more personal space in order to feel comfortable. If you take a step toward someone and you notice them starting to lean, turn, shift, or step away from you, understand that you may be approaching a danger zone. You might want to take a step back. You will probably notice them relax. When this happens, you will know that you have managed the physical proximity effectively.
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