10 Nonverbal Tips Designed to Improve Relationships: No. 6

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This is Tip #6 in a series of 10 relationship building reminders.

Choose your gestures wisely.

Here is a little exercise practiced by many professional speakers. Watch yourself in conversation (video) and turn down the audio. Focus on your hands, body, feet, head, shoulders and overall movement.

In addition to being quite humorous, or perhaps sleep inducing, you will learn a great deal about your communication style.

Simply by extending your arm reach far and wide gives the listener a verbal picture of how big your referenced example is. Holding one hand out and using your thumb and forefinger to show a slight gap between them indicates the smallness of the relationship.

Pointing is something I have learned to recognize as possibly being good or bad. I learned this the hard way and I don’t want to share that story with you today. Let it suffice to say that some people become very annoyed if you point your finger at them.

Under the gesture category, I will share another potential problem area. I have come to learn over the years that some people do not share the same sense of humor as yours. You may be trying to solicit a laugh with a gesture, story or body movement, and it will totally fall flat. It could very well turn a few audience members against you … and this definitely is not an ideal situation. Been there. Done that.

I don’t want you to become paranoid when speaking with people, but I do want you to be cognizant of the power, meaning and possible interpretation of your movement. Political correctness is not my strong suit. I just want you to recognize the fact that there are a few things that may not help your cause, but could definitely distance you from your intended objective … and that is finding more people who will let you help them.

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